This is yet another post on transcending conflict. I write again on this subject because all too often people get stuck in conflict. Being stuck, like a fly in a spider’s web, they learn to dislike the stickiness. Disliking the stickiness, they never learn how to use conflict in a creative way.
Conflict is a domain like any other. To get better at managing it, one needs to understand that domain. And a key aspect of the conflict domain is that by definition, conflicts resolve themselves. Even the most intense conflicts end. And they end for better or worse for those who participated in them.
This sets the stage for managing emotion in the conflict. One learns to feel the memory of the desired resolution rather than the experience of being stuck. That being stuck is what I call a “non-experience”. Like water to the fish.